NYC-based artist, Rachel Bochner, has released her “most relatable song yet” with her newest single “ghosted my therapist”. An anthem about navigating the realities of growing up, and mastered entirely by women (!!!), this track stays true to Bochner’s indie-pop influences. Cut It Out had the opportunity to sit down with Rachel and discuss the inspiration behind “ghosted my therapist”, what it means to be a 20-something, and future plans for the singer:
Introduce yourself to our readers. Who are you, what do you do, interests, hobbies, etc.
My name is Rachel Bochner, and I make indie pop music! I’m an Aquarius, I drink too much coffee, I will ALWAYS disappear at the pregame to go hang out with the dog, I have 4 sisters and am very much a middle child, I love DIY projects, and my favorite color is purple.
Tell us about your newest single, “ghosted my therapist”. Where did the inspiration to write this song come from? How are you doing post-ghosting?
I wrote the song with two of my best friends, Sasha Campbell and Annick Blaize, and it honestly just started off as us collectively roasting me. I explained at the beginning of the session that I was feeling a bit blocked creatively, and they were helping me take a step back and not take myself too seriously.
Something they know I joke about is how I ghosted a therapist, and we thought it was a hilarious concept for a low-pressure, no judgment writing session. It was a fun angle to take, because most of the time when I talk about mental health in my music, it’s in a much more serious context. Mental health is something I do take super seriously, but it felt very genuine to also tap into the fact that I sometimes cope with humor too. Post-ghosting, I’m definitely finding my way, but that’s also because there have been therapists in my life post-ghosting the one I refer to in the song. Therapy is COOL!
In regard to your song’s lyrics, do you feel like you’ve been getting things right, or at least on a path to doing so?
Even with the speed bumps, flat tires, and fender benders included, I definitely feel like I’m on the right path. There’s really no clear-cut, linear path for pursuing music, so I have to go with my gut and trust the process. I love that line though – ‘tell me why it feels like I can never get it right / you could say it’s my fault / stubborn like a deadbolt / bad at taking advice’ – because I’m so dramatic sometimes (shoutout to my Aries rising). I used to hate being called dramatic growing up because I felt like it was a bad thing, but now I just embrace it. It’s not the worst thing in the world to feel things intensely!
Any advice to other 20-somethings who might be in a similar spot as described in your song? I can definitely attest to feeling like I should have my life figured out by now, but I’m far, far from it.
I wish I had some incredible advice on how to feel like you have your shit together, but the truth is… I’m still figuring it out. Some days I feel like I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be, and other days I feel like a fish out of water… but that’s okay! At the very least, I hope the song can serve as a comforting reminder that we’re not alone in this weird “growing up” journey.
Whether you’re 21 or about to turn 30, we’re all figuring it out in our own ways at our own paces. I think what makes this song special is that it feels SO personable but also SO relatable at the same time, and it’s my favorite thing in the WORLD to see people resonating with something I’ve put in a song. I’ve seen people use the sound on TikTok to take their meds with iced coffee and stuff like that, and I’m living for it.
In the cover art it states “I wanna quit my day job”, and from what we’ve heard you’ve just recently done that! How does that feel, what are the next steps for you? Future career goals?
RB: The cover art kind of outed me, because I posted it before officially putting in my notice at work so… oops! Quitting my day job feels like a big sigh of relief and like I’m about to go down a huge drop on a rollercoaster at the same time. Having more time to devote to music makes me so happy and excited, but there’s of course risk involved. One of those pesky realities of the twenty-something experience is having bills to pay and rent to make, but this next chapter feels really right so far. I’m just excited to keep making music, meeting and working with more people, and of course the sold out world tour I’m manifesting.
Where can our readers follow you? List social media, promote your song! Give them a reason why they need to stream this single.
RB: If you’re twenty-something… or if you at some point HAVE or WILL BE twenty-something (aka everyone reading this)… you need to stream ghosted my therapist to laugh with me, at me, or even at yourself. Call me/beep me if you wanna reach me on IG, TikTok, FB, etc @rachelbochner!
Thank you from all of us at Cut It Out! And congrats on the newest single.
Thank YOU!!!!
“ghosted my therapist” by Rachel Bochner is out on September 2nd. It is an honest and light-hearted tune that makes you feel like you’re not alone. Navigating the stress of life isn’t an easy task for anyone, so it’s great to know even a pop artist living the musical dream can have their own everyday struggles.
Rachel Bochner
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